Dear my soul mate best ever friend,
I cannot deny I feel heart broken and feel lost in a middle of tangles in life.
I guess what I feel now is nothing comparable to what you have been going through for the last 14 months…
I am sorry for not realizing anything that has been going on. I would have not tried to make you stay or change your mind. I would have supported you to opt for your decision much sooner. I am sorry we are a bit behind. Just a bit you know. It is never to late to start on what you know will work out :)
I am so glad that everything is over. You have chosen to do what you have been thinking for so long. It was the best decision my dear friend! I know you, your heart, your mind so I trust in your thoughts as well as decisions.
Now, promise me to stay strong as you have always been. Stay positive, stay calm to continue figuring out what is the next step you should take to get closer to what you are chasing for.
It could be doing nursing, teaching English, volunteering, anything in this beautiful world that suits your wonderful heart and soul!
You know at the end of the day, what you would rather have is being broke and truly happy than being rich and feeling horrible :)
I believe God will help you and give you luck in everything you do in the future.
You know what? Promise me, not to ever give up! I will carry on doing what I am blessed to have, as I am doing it for me and you. So please going on your own happy path with the double amount of determination as you are doing it for both of us :)
I love you from the bottom of my heart, my dearest friend.
Life is bitter sweat sometimes and from all those tangles, we will find the true love :)
Lời tỏ tình không lãng mạn…
Điều lãng mạn nhất của tình yêu
Sự tin cậy không thể tự nhiên mà có, dù đó là 2 người yêu nhau say đắm. Nó cần nhiều thời gian và nỗ lực. Chúc con được nghe lời-tỏ-tình-không-lãng-mạn: “Anh yêu em, như em vẫn vậy!”
Con thân yêu!
Dường như tình yêu đầu tiên lại làm con mệt mỏi. Con loay hoay với những thứ váy áo mà con vốn không thích mặc. Bực bội với đôi mắt một mí “hàng độc” của mình. Bố thấy con buồn nhiều hơn là vui, con không tự tin khi là mình nữa.
Đúng là thật dễ để “quyến rũ” một người, nhưng thật khó để người ấy biết rằng ta không hoàn hảo.
Bố và mẹ đã yêu nhau được gần 30 năm. Mẹ từng là một cô gái được nhiều người để ý, mẹ đẹp và học giỏi. Nhưng tại sao mẹ lại chọn bố, một người không có gì đặc biệt? Có lần mẹ nói rằng, duy nhất bên bố, mẹ có thể biểu diễn điệu cười “khủng khiếp” của mẹ. Bởi mẹ biết bố yêu nụ cười ấy.
Mẹ tự ti vì đôi bàn chân của mình, và vẫn thường đi những đôi giầy kín mu bàn chân. Nhưng bên bố, mẹ có thể cởi bỏ những đôi giầy cao gót rất điệu của mình và thu cả 2 chân trần lên ghế. Bên bố mẹ có thể thực sự là mẹ, trên từng milimét vuông. Đó chính là sự tin cậy. Niềm tin cậy tạo nên bầu không khí an toàn để những tình cảm thân mật, âu yếm nảy sinh. Và những người yêu nhau có thể giao phó vào tay nhau cả quá khứ, hiện tại và tương lai của mình.
Con có thể phải lòng một người con không tin cậy, nhưng thật khó mà có thể chung sống với họ. Trong tình yêu, con phải được thật là mình. Mặc cho tất cả những mưu mẹo nho nhỏ chúng ta vẫn thử và có thể gây ấn tượng được với người ta yêu trong buổi ban đầu hò hẹn, thì tình thân mật gắn bó lại dựa trên những gì mà những người yêu nhau biết về nhau.
Người ấy cần phải biết cái tôi thực của con - con như thế nào khi con mệt mỏi, tức giận, nản lòng, phấn chấn. Người ấy phải yêu con như con vẫn thế, chứ không phải yêu cái hình ảnh hoàn hảo mà người ấy hi vọng có ở nơi con.
Con đã xem phim Nhật ký tiểu thư Jones rồi, đúng không? Có một cảnh mà Mark Darcy nói với “tiểu thư” Jones rằng “Anh thích em, như em vẫn vậy”. Và cô ấy hoàn toàn bị chinh phục. Tại sao lại có thể có một phản ứng mạnh như vậy cho một câu “tỏ-tình-không-hề-lãng-mạn”? Bởi vì Mark nói với cô ấy rằng anh ta thật sự nhìn cô ấy và anh ta yêu những cái anh ta nhìn thấy. Anh ta không nói anh thích cô ấy gầy đi mười cân, ăn mặc cho lịch thiệp hơn chút nữa hay xinh hơn 1 chút. Anh thích cô ấy như cô ấy vẫn thế, vô điều kiện. Cô ấy không cần phải cố gắng để gây ấn tượng với anh ấy, bởi Mark thực sự bị gây ấn tượng rồi.
Sự tin cậy không thể tự nhiên mà có, dù đó là 2 người yêu nhau say đắm. Nó cần nhiều thời gian và nỗ lực. Hãy lắng nghe cậu ấy, tôn trọng cậu ấy cũng như ý kiến của cậu ấy, và chấp nhận cậu ấy như cậu ấy vẫn vậy. Và con sẽ được đền đáp công bằng. Giống như mẹ đã yêu bố như bố vẫn vậy.
Biết mình được yêu vì con người thực của mình sẽ khiến con cảm thấy tình yêu thật sự là chốn thiên đường, nơi mà con có thể từ bỏ mọi “vũ khí”. Nó cho phép con được thực sự là mình mà không hề phải lo sợ bị giễu cợt và chối bỏ. Điều đó tuyệt vời vô cùng.
Chúc con được nghe lời-tỏ-tình-không-lãng-mạn: “Anh yêu em, như em vẫn vậy!”
“When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you’d like us to be” by Greg
“Oh sure, they say they’re busy. They say that they didn’t have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just THAT crazy! Bullshit. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing it is almost impossible NOT to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don’t even mean to. We may try to make you think differently, but we men are just like you. We like taking a break from our generally mundane day to talk to someone we like. It makes us happy. And we like to be happy, just like you. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.” by Greg (speaking from the chapter called “He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you….men know how to use the phone”
“1f you don’t believe Greg…100% of men polled said they’ve never been too busy to call a woman they were really into. As one fine man said, ‘A man has got to have his priorities’” by Greg
“If you date, you will meet your share of weirdos and jerks. That is as sure as death and taxes” by Greg
“You already have one asshole. You don’t need another.” by Greg (from “What you should have learned from this chapter”….from the chapter titled “He’s just not that into you if he’s a selfish jerk, a bully, or a really big freak
At the end of the book, here are the Standard Suggestions that you should set up for yourself (i’m talking girls here) for your standards:
1. I will not go out with a man who hasn’t asked me out first.
2. I will not go out with a man who keeps me waiting by the phone.
3. I will not date a man who isn’t sure he wants to date me.
4. I will not date a man who drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable.
5. I will not date a man who makes me feel sexually undesireable.
6. I will not be with a man who’s afraid to talk about our future.
7. I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me.
8. I will not date a man who is married.
9. I will not be with a man who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.
“If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a fcking phone call.”
“Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You are deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.”
“It’s very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less — even a vague pathetic facsimile of less — than you would have ever imagined. Remember always what you set out to get and please don’t settle for less. These guys exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to.”
“You picked a lemon, throw it away lemonade is overrated. Freaks should remain at the circus, not in your apartment. You already have one asshole. You don’t need another. Make a space in your life for the glorious things you deserve. Have faith.”
“Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we’re told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don’t, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy, maybe… it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is… just… moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope.”
Cut your losses and don’t waste your time . Why stay in some weird dating limbo when you can move on to what will surely be better territory? Don’t want to hear it? Fine. Here’s the answer you’re looking for, “Hang in there, baby. He’s not the loser everybody’s telling you he is. If you wait and keep your mouth shut and call at exactly the right time and anticipate his moods and have no expectations about communication or your own sexual needs, you can have him!” But please don’t be surprised if he dumps you or continues to drag you through a completely unsatisfying relationship.
There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that you didn’t get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend
No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.
Being lonely … being alone … for many people … sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn’t honor the person you are is worse.
Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.
You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time.
“The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed.”
“Don’t ask yourself what you did wrong or how you could have done it differently. Don’t waste your valuable heart and mind trying to figure out why he did what he did. Or thinking back on all the things he said, and wondering what was the truth and what was the lie. The only thing you need to know is that it’s really good news: He’s gone.” - He’s just not that into you by by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
We go out with someone, we get excited about them, and then they do something that mildly disappoints us. Then they keep doing a lot more things that disappoint us. Then we go into hyper-excuse mode for weeks or possibly months, because the last thing we want to think is that this great man that we are so excited about is in the process of turning into a creep. We try to come up with some explanation for why they’re behaving that way, any explanation, no matter how ridiculous, rather than one explanation that’s the truth: he’s just not that into me.
Wasting time with the wrong person is just time wasted. And unless you do move on and find the right person, you’re not going to wish you had spent more time with Stinky the Time-Waster or Freddy Can’t Remember to Call.
People are inspired to do remarkable things to find and be with the one they love. Big movies are made about it. Every relationship that you admire bursts with a greatness that you hope for in your life. And the more you value yourself, the more chances you have of getting it.
You know you deserve to have a great relationship.
Don’t you want the guy who’ll forget about all the other things in life before he forgets you?
Is better than nothing what we’re going for now? Why should you feel honored for getting scraps of his time? Just because he’s busy doesn’t make him more valuable. Busy doesn’t mean better.
You can accept his excuses all you want but is this the relationship you want? Is this how you want to feel? Perhaps forever?
Don’t let your desire to be loved and feel affection cloud your judgment.
There are cool, loving, SINGLE men in the world. Find one of them to go out with.
Don’t let his personal complications confuse you into waiting around for him. If he’s not able to be really into you, then you deserve better.
I miss you. I miss your messages. I miss the late night chatting with you. I miss you
Its been a long and tiring semester. I am only 4 weeks away from our Chrismas holiday! Hurray!!! :)
Long distance relationship seems to be really hard.
I don’t know why I started to lose my faith in true love.
I feel like being chubby has stopped me from being confident.
Really, can guys see past the appearance? Really? I doubt so lol I guess my right man has been run over by a bus or something lol
Seriously? Why were all the guys I met too immature/ too mature for me? Really? Or Its just because I am not pretty and skinny?
It takes time it takes time… I told myself so many times but it just hurts much every single time I realized something I have forgotten…
I am really sorry my friends who I knew… this is such a painful thing to say I have forgotten how our friendship used to be.
I guess it is fate which brought us to be friends and I believe we will be able to become friends again.
Inside me, those memories abt someone are still very fresh… although they were way way back. This is hard to accept but I will have to overcome it.
I guess people who were important to me, will always be important.
For now that’s all I can say.
Flying back to England in a day… very nervous and worried….